By Wicked Temptress

Understanding and listening to your partner is a must when it comes to knowing whom your partner really is and what he or she enjoys when it comes to foreplay and sex…. When it comes to foreplay and enjoying hot passionate sex or wild sexual passions and mind blowing orgasms, we have to listen to each other and to understand what we both want, not just one of us. Foreplay is a beneficial part of our relationship and can take us further than we may think… we all love sex right?

Yeah, I know that is why you are here and reading about all the different articles on foreplay and how you can sometimes enjoy an erotic sensual session sometimes ending in penetration but other times not. I love being able to share some of my experiences and the experiences of others when it comes to talking about being prepared…. Being prepared to listen to what your partner wants when it comes to sex and for your partner to listen to you…

When it comes to sex for a lot of people some men and women have problems, so foreplay is an added bonus in most cases for all of us. Did you know that a man’s capacity to get and maintain an erection decreases gradually as he ages, while most women require more than penile penetration to reach orgasm?

Most women do require more than penile penetration to reach orgasm… “Thrusting” and “pumping her hard” alone is usually not enough. Clitoral stimulation and foreplay are wonderful things to trigger a wonderful climax and a good time by both…

Another thing to think about and I know that this happens, some guys think that a woman can turn her juices on and they can flow like a tap. Sorry guys I hate to burst that fantasy bubble and bring you back to reality, a woman’s natural lubrication cannot be turned on at the drop of a hat, it needs desire, stimulation and a little time. If on these occasions when your lovely lady, your partner or girlfriend is “drier” than usual always have on hand a water-based artificial lubricant, it works just as well and a normal adjunct to enjoyable lovemaking.

With you reading this, it is just the start to the stimulation and desire for both of you. Discovering what both of you like and working on those things will also help with your relationship and make for great sex. Find what turns you on, your turn offs, what excites and arouses your partner… better still what are your fantasies?? Don’t forget to talk about how vigorous and active you want your sex to be. If you just want to make love then talk about it, you both have to enjoy it, it’s like a partnership both parties have to enjoy the session… Also and one of the most important things to discuss are the fears and anxieties that you may feel when it comes to having that special session…

Find out about each other, you can take your relationship further by sharing your knowledge together and understanding the kind of sensual, sexual lovemaking that both of you will enjoy. Always remember that sexual and emotional needs will vary from person to person…

Lets spice up this column just a little ok, if you haven’t tried this and you want to share something special between the two of you, try masturbating in front of your partner… now you have to do this with his/her agreement and it should be encouraged for it to be more relaxed between the two of you. Better still try doing it together, this is called mutual masturbation, it can be a turn-on for both of you and it’s a valid and a very enjoyable part of your foreplay and lovemaking… Do it together for more pleasure…

Foreplay is beneficial in the way that it enables us to enjoy our lovemaking a lot more than a wham bam thank you mam type of session…